#058 From Doomscrolling to Detox: Why Conviction Beats Willpower Every Time
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What if the reason you keep stalling isn't a lack of willpower, but a lack of the right conditions? Amanda Parker breaks down the six-part framework that helped her complete an eight-day Ayurvedic detox — and finally follow through on the things that matter.
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“If you really want to do something, but back somewhere in your mind you don’t think it’s possible — then guess what? You are going to fail. There’s no way to succeed if you don’t really believe you’re going to make it through.”
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Amanda Parker
Amanda Parker is the host of the Don't Step on the Bluebells podcast and an intuitive guide that helps people to deeply trust their inner wisdom, quiet the external noise, and intentionally create a life fully aligned with their true self. She is a Certified Professional Coach (ICF PCC, CPCC) and spiritual guide using a unique blend of shamanic and energy healing practices to support you on your journey towards inner knowing and deep self-trust.
Amanda is a Reiki Master Healer and a member of the UK Reiki Federation, and has trained in psychic mediumship with the College of Psychic Studies and shamanism with the Foundation for Shamanic Studies.
Amanda has worked in the field of leadership and personal development since 2017 - supporting clients from organizations such as World Bank Group, World Economic Forum, UNICEF, Zalando, Nestle, and LinkedIn. She previously worked in wildlife conservation with the World Wildlife Fund - supporting projects in forest and wetland protection across South America.
Amanda is a native New Yorker who has been living in London for the last 3.5 years, after over a decade in Berlin, Germany. She now lives in North London with her husband and their two cats, Zaki & Oreo.
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Show Notes
What if the reason you keep stalling on new habits isn't a lack of willpower, but a lack of the right conditions? Amanda shares a candid, step-by-step look at how she completed an eight-day Ayurvedic detox after years of stopping at day three, and what changed to make follow-through non-negotiable. From the toll of doomscrolling and constant crisis headlines to the quiet power of clear limits and smart preparation, this conversation reframes discipline as design. We walk through a simple, repeatable roadmap: choose conviction over hope, set a visible finish line, make a real decision, lower friction with preparation, rehearse success through visualization, and lean on someone who can carry you on hard days.
You'll hear the messy middle too — headaches, cravings, and the moment she brought mung bean soup to a full-day workshop — along with the shift when energy, clarity, and confidence returned. Each element is practical and adaptable, whether you're launching a project, starting a fitness streak, or finally sitting down to write.
If you're tired of white-knuckling your goals, this is a gentler, sturdier way forward. You'll learn how time-bound experiments beat vague forever-promises, why designing your environment matters more than raw grit, and how accountability becomes borrowed belief when your own wavers.
Hit play, pick one change for a short window, and let this framework carry you across the line. If this resonated, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs momentum, and leave a quick review to help others find the show. What will your eight-day challenge be?
Key Takeaways
Willpower is rarely the real problem. The missing ingredient is almost always one of six specific conditions — and identifying which one is absent changes everything.
Conviction is not the same as hope. There's a profound difference between wishing something will work out and genuinely knowing — in your body and mind — that you will complete it.
Time boundaries make the impossible feel possible. Starting a new habit "forever" is paralyzing. Running a defined experiment — three weeks, eight days, one month — gives you a container to commit within.
Preparation is not procrastination — it's strategy. Removing friction before you begin dramatically increases your chance of success.
You don't have to do it alone. Having even one person who believes in you and will hold you on your hardest days is not a luxury — it's a core ingredient of sustainable follow-through.
What We Talked About
Amanda's personal experience completing an 8-day Ayurvedic kichari (mung bean) detox — and why it succeeded when shorter attempts had failed before
The emotional and physical toll of constant news consumption, doom-scrolling, and the global moment we're living through in early 2026
How the body signals overload — headaches, swollen feet, knee pain, and a persistent sense of heaviness — and why these signs deserve to be listened to
The Ayurvedic detox protocol: what it involves, the kichari recipe from Suyogi Gessner, and what to expect day by day
Why the first four days of the detox are the hardest — and what happens when you push past them
The role of conviction: why your mindset at the start determines your outcome — and how a half-committed "I'll try" is already setting you up to quit
Using time-bounded experiments instead of open-ended commitments to reduce overwhelm when starting something new
The power of small preparatory steps — sourcing spices in advance, clearing out temptations — to make day one as frictionless as possible
Visualization as a practical tool: not just seeing the result but feeling it in your body — and how to use it without a formal meditation practice
Having a support person in your corner — how Amanda and her husband took turns holding each other up through the hardest days of the detox
Guest Quotes
"It's not just about willpower. Sometimes we lose trust in ourselves because we think we didn't try hard enough. But the truth is that it's really about deciding."
"If you really want to do something, but back somewhere in your mind you don't think it's possible — then guess what? You are going to fail. There's no way to succeed if you don't really believe you're going to make it through."
"I knew that I was going to complete what I started. There was no question of that when I began."
"When you really commit your energy, you make the commitment to what it is that you want — if you want to stay within your own integrity, you will honor the decision that you made."
"We wanted to give ourselves the best chance to succeed. So we took it one step at a time — made a grocery list, looked at the recipe, figured out where to source the spices. On day one, there were no more excuses."
"You always pack your bag the night before. Everything that you need to succeed is already prepared and at the ready — so all you have to do is wake up and go."
"It's not going to go on forever and ever. You're allowing yourself the space to find out what happens."
"Every time I thought about the detox, I could feel some of that weight and heaviness coming off. Really giving yourself the chance to not only see — but feel — the impact of your choice is a huge game changer."
"Having someone who you know will support you — you give yourself the chance to say, hey, I'm gonna need some help to get through this, because I know it's gonna be tough."
Resources to Learn More
Suyogi Gessner — Ayurvedic doctor and previous guest on Don't Step on the Bluebells. Source of the kichari detox recipe. - https://www.suyogigessner.com/
Don't Step on the Bluebells — Previous episode with Suyogi Gessner. - https://www.dontsteponthebluebells.com/episodes/007-healing-with-ayurveda
Kichari / Ayurvedic Mung Bean Detox — The cleansing protocol discussed throughout the episode. A traditional Ayurvedic dish made from mung beans, rice, ghee, and warming spices.
Ayushakti Healthime Detox Protocol (30 Days) https://eu.ayushakti.com/products/healthiime-detox
Terms & Tools to Dig Deeper
Ayurveda A 5,000-year-old system of natural medicine originating in India. Ayurveda focuses on balancing the body, mind, and spirit through diet, lifestyle, herbs, and cleansing practices tailored to an individual's constitution (dosha).
Conviction As used in this episode: the internal state of knowing — not just hoping — that you will complete what you've committed to. Distinct from motivation or enthusiasm, conviction is a deep, settled certainty that drives consistent action.
Detox / Cleanse In the Ayurvedic context, a structured dietary protocol designed to eliminate accumulated toxins (ama) from the body and reset the digestive system. Symptoms like headaches and nausea in the first few days are considered signs that the cleanse is working.
Doom Scrolling The compulsive habit of endlessly consuming negative news or distressing content on a screen, even when it increases anxiety or sadness. Associated with heightened stress, disrupted sleep, and a feeling of helplessness.
Dosha In Ayurveda, the three fundamental bio-energetic forces (Vata, Pitta, and Kapha) that govern an individual's physical and mental constitution. Understanding your dominant dosha guides personalised recommendations for diet, lifestyle, and cleansing practices.
Integrity (self-integrity) The alignment between what you say you'll do and what you actually do. Amanda uses this to describe the internal motivation to honour a commitment once you've truly decided — not out of obligation, but out of respect for your own word.
Kichari (also: Kitchari) A traditional Ayurvedic dish made from split mung beans, rice, ghee, and warming spices such as cumin, turmeric, and ginger. Considered one of the most easily digestible and healing foods in Ayurveda, kichari is the cornerstone of Ayurvedic detox protocols.
Mung Beans (Moong Dal) A small, green legume widely used in South and Southeast Asian cuisine. In Ayurveda, split mung beans are prized for their ability to detoxify the body, balance all three doshas, and support digestive healing.
Time-Bounded Experiment A strategy for committing to a new behaviour by setting a clear start and end date, rather than an open-ended "forever" commitment. Reduces psychological resistance and provides a defined window to assess results before deciding whether to continue.
Visualization A mental practice of vividly imagining a desired future outcome — including how it looks and feels. Used by athletes, coaches, and healing practitioners to build belief, reduce fear, and accelerate progress. Even a few times a week can be transformative.
Willpower The conventional idea that follow-through is primarily a function of self-discipline or mental strength. Amanda challenges this framing, arguing that willpower is often blamed unfairly when the real issue is the absence of one or more key success conditions.
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Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] So you might be familiar with the feeling of having started something. Maybe it was a detox, maybe it was a project that you wanted to get started or a new habit, and then you quit. Then maybe you blame yourself for not having enough willpower. Today we're gonna unpack what that feeling actually is and what if willpower was never actually the problem.
Welcome to Don't Step On the Blue Bells, the podcast for personal healing and transformation takes center stage. I'm your host Amanda Parker, and I'm a fellow seeker on the journey of personal growth. Join me as I delve into the stories of gifted healers, guides, and everyday people who have experienced remarkable transformations.
Listen in as they share their practical wisdom to enrich your everyday life. And don't forget to hit, subscribe and never miss a new episode.[00:01:00]
Welcome to today's episode of Don't Step on the Blue Bells. Today we are talking all about that feeling, that thing that helps you to actually accomplish and do the things that you say you want to do. So I'm gonna share a bit of my own journey in very recent weeks. So my husband and I recently completed an eight day Ayurvedic detox.
This is a detox that consists of eating a very specific type of mung bean soup. You can also look it up. It's called Char. I use the recipe from CGI Gesner, who was also a guest on the podcast. I'll link to that episode and to her website so that you can take a look at the detox if you're interested as well.
But we did an eight-day detox and actually made it through all eight days. This is honestly quite different than experiences I've had in the past doing the same detox, [00:02:00] but even for a lesser period of time. So in the past, I have done this detox for three days. I think the longest we ever did, it might have been a six day period many, many years ago.
But the truth is that even after three days, I felt like I was dying. It was so hard. It didn't feel like there was any upside to actually continuing through with the detox. So what was different this time? Well, the truth is starting this new year, I'm recording this episode in February, 2026. We have had a hell of a time in the world.
Anyone who has been watching the news or paying attention to what's going on might be feeling similar to the way that I've been feeling, uh, overwhelmed, frustrated, angry. And just basically every emotion under the sun, constantly going on repeat. So I have been watching the news. I have been tuning [00:03:00] in.
Constantly to what's happening in the world, whether it's something that's happening back in my home country in America, which is just so devastating to me watching what's happening in Iran. In Ukraine. So all over the world, we have these really sort of pivotal moments in history and. The level of consumption and awareness of what's happening is at an all time high in my own life.
That means that I am on my phone, I'm looking at Instagram, I am reading the news, and I am essentially. Drowning myself in information and situations that I really have very little control over in my own life. That's not to say that I need to completely disengage and have no idea what's happening. No, that's not what I'm advocating, that there's an element of self-care that needs to come in, which has nothing to do with doom scrolling Instagram to [00:04:00] read, you know, all my.
Uh, democratic senators or whoever it is that's on my feed, telling me constantly what's happening, what's going wrong, and what needs to change. I was feeling exhausted. I was feeling afraid my body was giving me signs that it was too much. I was getting headaches quite regularly from just being on the screen for so long.
My knee felt like it was really hurting. I couldn't tell if there was something I had done wrong or there was just pain that started growing over the last few weeks or last couple months even. I felt that there was a swelling in my feet. Like I kept feeling like I needed a foot massage, which is something quite unusual.
Sure, a foot massage feels good, but I didn't know what was really happening within my body, so there was just this sense of heaviness and clogging and overwhelm. So I knew that I wanted to do a detox and really kind of clean [00:05:00] the whole slate. So I knew this detox from Sue Yogi, who I mentioned earlier in the episode.
She is still my Ayurvedic doctor. So I had a call with her at the end of last year and she suggested actually to do this detox for 30 days. And I just have the sense that that wouldn't really be possible. So come February, I was able to fully commit to go in on the detox, and we decided to do eight days.
The reason that we chose eight days is because the first three or four days, you're really just getting all the toxins outta your system, and then you're starting to feel the benefits of the detox, whereas when you just do the detox for three days. You just have the hard parts. You get the headache, the withdrawals from caffeine, from sugar, from all of this.
So we wanted to just stick it out and find out what happened. But in the past, as I mentioned, I've done the detox and then after three days it was [00:06:00] so hard, I just gave up. I didn't wanna do it any longer. And then I remember after one time that I tried, in particular, my sugar levels were all over the place.
I felt incredibly deprived. And so after the detox, I ended up like eating even more sugar and foods that just weren't good for me, that weren't working well within my system on this detox. The first day was hard. It was like really challenging. I had this. Really terrible headache for most of the day, and I spent probably the entire afternoon basically hunched over the toilet, like feeling nauseous and I will spare you all the horrible details of exactly what that felt like.
But it was really tough and I felt like shit, like I really felt bad. By day two, the nausea had subsided. I was no longer [00:07:00] vomiting, and I just had a slight headache. I felt tired. I felt a bit cranky and frustrated. By day three, the headache started to lift, but I still felt tired. Day four more of the same.
By day five, I started to get a bit of my energy back and a little bit more of my mental capacity. By day six, it was already growing. My energy was coming back. Even though the diet had not changed at all, the toxins had really worked their number on my system. My body was starting to get used to this new rhythm.
On day seven, I went to a full day workshop with my mung bean soup. By the way, I brought it in my bag in a bottle so that I could drink it at lunchtime, so I did not give up on the detox and made it all the way through until the end of day eight. So what exactly was different this time from when I have tried to do things in the past that I've started and didn't [00:08:00] complete or didn't feel capable of completing.
So my husband and I have often joked about this. It's come up in many client conversations as well, like, how do you decide to do something? So it's, it's well and good to say you just make a decision and you do it. But the reality can often look quite different. When I first wanted to start journaling every day, that was a whole process to get my ass in the chair.
With my journal in hand just to be able to sit down and write. And it wasn't that I didn't want to do it, I really did, but there was something else that was missing. So I have started to think through and reverse engineer what works so well in this particular detox. 'cause this is not a simple task for me.
It's a complete diet change and it's. You know, denying yourself, basically these cravings that you usually run to. You know, every time that I'm feeling overwhelmed or I don't know what to do, or I'm [00:09:00] stuck on a problem, then I immediately want to go and eat something sweet or make myself a coffee. And in this detox, I couldn't rely on these.
Habits that I have formed over many years to comfort me when I needed it, so I could no longer turn to food or to caffeine or to sugar to be able to give me that sense of comfort and ease that I'm so often looking for when I go down into the kitchen throughout my workday. Anyone who works from home knows exactly what I'm talking about, so I was able to pull out what are some of those key.
Elements that helped me to succeed in going from having this thing I wanted to do to actually completing it. So the first thing was conviction. So this is the difference between hoping that something works out and knowing that you're going to complete it. [00:10:00] So every time that I said, oh, I want a journal, I wasn't really sure if I was going to be able to do it.
I didn't really fully trust myself. I didn't know if I would make it through until the end or be able to follow through on the thing I had said I would do. This time with Mung being detox, it was so clear to me that I was gonna do the eight days no matter what. I was so convicted of my success. I believed in myself.
I really made that decision and put my mindset behind it. So I knew that I was gonna complete what I started. There was no question of that when I began. I think that's really important here just to take note that our minds and our mindset plays a huge role in whether or not we succeed. If you really wanna do something, but back somewhere in your mind, you actually don't think it's possible or don't think you're gonna follow through or something else is gonna get in the way.
And you're gonna fail, [00:11:00] then guess what? You are going to fail because there's no way for you to succeed if you don't really believe that you're gonna make it through until the end. The second key to actually being able to succeed through this detox. Were having time boundaries. I didn't say that I was going to be eating mung bean soup for the rest of my life.
I didn't say I was going to eat it for the rest of the month or the year. I said, I'm gonna do this for. Eight days. There was a very clear limit to how long this would go on, so I also knew that I could commit to eight days. I also knew that if we had gone to nine days, I might have cried. So it was just having that preparation from the very beginning of how long this is gonna be.
I knew what the constraints were and I was willing to make that commitment and that choice for a period of time to find out what happened. So that is something that also really helps that if you just say, I [00:12:00] wanna go to the gym for, you know, the rest of my life three times a week. Well, it's gonna be really hard to start something new.
If you say, you know what? I wanna run an experiment for the next three weeks. I'm gonna go to the gym three times a week. Then you're allowing yourself the space to find out what happens when there's a time constraint. When you say yes, you can always decide later, you know what? This is great. I really wanna keep up the habit.
But as you're starting something new, especially if it feels daunting to you, if you have this idea that it's supposed to go on forever and ever, it's gonna be really hard to ever get yourself to begin, much less to follow through long term. There was also this moment in time, and this is point number three, that I actually had to make that decision.
I had to choose that instead of letting myself fail or not being sure or do I really wanna do [00:13:00] this, I just had to make the choice. I'm going to do this and I'm gonna follow through until the end. I think that's something that is underestimated because we often have things we want to do, but we're not really fully decided within.
And so there's always this half in, half out kind of feeling where you could still pull back at any time, but when you really commit your energy, you make the commitment to what it is that you want and you decide that you're going to do it. If you wanna stay within your own integrity, you will honor the decision that you made.
And I think that that makes a huge difference in our level of confidence and self-belief when we're starting something new or when we really wanna know, do I have what it takes? That doesn't mean that you're not gonna feel scared or overwhelmed, or that you might have some doubts that come in. Of course, you're human.
It's very natural, but there is a big difference when you decide to [00:14:00] really be all in on something and to fully commit and find out what happens. The fourth step were small steps to prepare yourself. In our case with this Mung Bean detox, we bought all the groceries in advance. We needed a lot of spices that we don't normally keep in the house.
We had to source them from different places. So for the one or two weeks before we began the detox, we already started stocking the kitchen with exactly what we would need. In that week leading up, so the days that were leading up to us beginning, we started to throw out the food that we knew was gonna go bad, first of all, while we were doing the detox.
And that wouldn't fit within the parameters of what we could eat so that we were reducing any of that temptation or friction that would inevitably come up. If you're having a craving for, you know, cookies and chocolate and cake, and your fridge is fully stocked, well, it's going to be really hard to have the willpower.
So we wanted to give ourselves the best chance [00:15:00] to succeed, and we took it one step at a time. We made a grocery list. We looked at the recipe in advance. We figured out where we could source these different spices and the mung beans and all of this so that on the day that we wanted to begin, we already had everything in order.
We wouldn't have to really put thought into it. There were no more excuses, and it was easy for us to step into the kitchen to cook on day one. This reminds me a bit of my coach who used to tell me he was an athlete and he would say that you always pack your bag the night before. So if you have a game day, you're not waking up in the morning at like 5:00 AM or 6:00 AM and getting all your stuff together in a hurry.
No. You make sure that your bag and everything that you need. To succeed on game day is already prepared and after ready the day before, so that all you have to do is wake yourself up and go and get yourself to the game. So this is really important that [00:16:00] you consider the things that you wanna do, rather than, okay, tomorrow I'm gonna start working out.
No, maybe there's something else. What do I need to do to prepare myself to begin working out? What do I need to do to prepare myself to start writing? That might be buying a new notebook that you love, or a pen that you really enjoy writing with, or that might be clearing your schedule in advance so that you know you have that specific amount of time set aside that it's not gonna conflict with other things in your life.
The fifth thing that I recognize was part of this success plan for being able to complete the detox was visualizing the result. Every time that I thought about doing the detox in advance, I would see myself not only doing the detox, but I could see the impact. And this might look many different ways.
You might actually sit down in meditation and really visualize yourself going through the process and [00:17:00] witnessing the end outcome, and how does that feel? And that is an amazing, amazing way to do it. To be honest, what I was doing in this moment was just every time I was thinking about the detox and how I wanted to feel and why I was motivated to do it, I could really see the impact on my body.
I could feel some of that weight and that heaviness coming off. I could feel how I would feel lighter and freer, and things would just be flowing more freely throughout. So really giving yourself the chance to not only see, but also feel what the impact of your choice is gonna be is going to be a huge game changer.
Honestly, if you practice visualization, you don't even have to do it every day, but multiple times a week. It's super powerful and it's one of the fastest ways to shorten the timeline to the things that you actually want. The last thing that really helped me to succeed was having someone in my corner.[00:18:00]
So my husband was doing this with me, and you know, I wanna make sure I put enough emphasis on how important that was. We so often do these things alone, right? And I've done plenty of things on my own, whether it's a detox or just projects or things I've launched. But I always want someone in my corner who supports me, who believes in me, who's cheering me on, because inevitably, all of these things get difficult.
We meet challenges along the way. We don't know. You know how long we're gonna be able to keep it up, or maybe you doubt yourself, or maybe you lose some of that belief and having someone who you know that will support you and that you could even pre designate whether that is your partner or a very good friend or a member of your family or a colleague on your team.
You give yourself the chance to say, Hey, I'm gonna need some help to get through this because I know it's gonna be tough. And you know that you have that person to rely on on those days when you say, I [00:19:00] can't do this. This is just too hard. I wanna quit. So in this case, with my husband, it was great because we were both on different ends of the spectrum of how we were feeling.
One day I was feeling like shit. He was able to step in and support me, and he could make the soup that day because I. Literally didn't feel like I could function on another day. A couple days later, he was feeling super exhausted and then I could show up for him and make sure that he had what he needed to be able to feel good in that moment.
So really finding that person or people even who are in your corner, who you know that you can rely on to support you and lift you up when things get difficult. This. Is a bit of a roadmap. I know that it is not foolproof, but there's so often the question of how we can really honor the things that we wanna do and really follow through.
Like how do we make that commitment and show up for ourselves that we. Really bring [00:20:00] to life whatever it is. Like for me, this is the detox story, but I've launched many things like this podcast, for example, or my coaching business or my weekly emails. Like all of these things took so much energy and effort to bring to life and then to be able to keep it up consistently over years, there has to be something special, and that's why I'm offering this to you that.
It's not just about willpower. You know, sometimes we lose trust in ourselves because we think that we didn't try hard enough. But the truth is that it's really about deciding. So really deciding and then creating the conditions around yourself and around that thing that are going to help you succeed and make it as easy as possible to get to that finish line that you're craving and that you're dreaming of.
I would encourage you to take a look at some of the things that are in your life that you're [00:21:00] just wishing that you have the strength for, that you would be able to bring into the world. You know, whether that is a new habit that you wanna form or that's a new project that you wanna launch into the world and ask yourself, what condition am I missing?
So if you think back to conviction, the time boundaries. Deciding the small preparation steps to get you ready, visualizing the result, and having someone in your corner ask yourself, what condition is missing for me to be able to begin and see this through. I would love to hear your stories of what it is that you are looking to start doing and looking to have the courage or maybe that conviction that you can really see it through.
So please do feel free to share with me what it is that you are working through. I hope that this episode helps you to recognize that you're not alone in [00:22:00] this. You know, mental state. All of us are in this boat together when we wanna launch something new. So it can be difficult, but it is also possible to change your behaviors and change your beliefs around that to bring your dreams to life.
So thank you so much for tuning into this episode of Don't Step On The Bluebells, and I can't wait to see you next time. Thanks for tuning into today's episode of Don't Step On The Bluebells. If you enjoyed this conversation, please give the podcast a five star rating wherever you listen. And don't forget to hit subscribe and follow along so you never miss a new episode.